Archive for January 2012

Breaking Negative Habits of Behaviour – Part 3

To break the pattern, you will need to recognise that you need to break it, get support or follow the steps to break it, and want to break it. If you have been actively working on the pattern you want to break and noting down your answers, you will have the information you need to get yourself started and break your pattern. If you want to break you pattern and haven’t been asking yourself the questions honestly or noting your answers, then I suggest that you do this now. Read the rest of this entry »

Breaking Negative Habits of Behaviour – Part 2

When we start to display the behaviour on a regular basis (either publicly or privately), it becomes a pattern, and patterns are familiar. Once a behaviour becomes familiar, our feelings towards it change. Perhaps when you first did it you felt pleasure, relief, safety, shock, or anger at yourself for having done it. Once it becomes a pattern, these feelings are dulled. They are still there, but dulled. So you may have that nagging voice in your head telling you that you ‘should’ do something about this, but the feeling you feel is rarely strong enough to move you to action. So you continue. Read the rest of this entry »

Breaking Negative Habits of Behaviour – Part 1

Do you ever feel stressed out because you keep repeating the same mistakes? Do you gravitate towards people who seem to mistreat or take advantage of you? Do you want stability in your life but seem to make decisions that take you further away from that? Perhaps you want to break a habit but never seem able to really shake it. Do you know what you need to do to promote your health, but just seem to do the opposite? Whatever mistake you feel you are repeating, it can be wearing to have to face up to it again and again. Read the rest of this entry »